How to Raise Your Children So that They Will Grow Up and Like You

LIVE: April 23, 2012– 11 am PST
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TITLE: ““How to Raise Your Children So that They Will Grow Up and Like You”

SPECIAL GUEST: Bill E. Goldberg, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Our guest, Bill Goldberg shares with Allen and Dr. Melody, the essence of the life philosophy he developed over a twenty year period as a counselor, writer, and teacher.

Leading the discussion are what Goldberg calls, “The Ten Qualities of An Effective Parent” from his book ‘The “And” Principle’. Among these are:

Give Your Children the Gift of Themselves – How to foster their uniqueness;
Accept All of Their Emotions – Allow them to grow up with their compass intact – How emotional integrity is one of the antidotes to drug, sex, and food abuse;
Know Unconditional Love Inside Yourself – How your spiritual foundation will allow your childrens’ authenticity to flourish;
Be a Good Communicator – Present to your children rules to the game of life where everyone can win; and
Set Limits and Teach Discipline – How discipline leads to freedom in life How creating boundaries is essential in dealing with peer pressure.

His interview will present reflections poems, and questions from his new book that will primarily deal with how to enoble and sanctify the parent-child relationship and protect one of your greatest investments: your relationship with your children.

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ABOUT THE BILL E. GOLDBERG

Our guest today, Bill Goldberg is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and he will be sharing with us today the essence of the life philosophy he developed over a twenty year period as a counselor, writer, and teacher. A former university lecturer, he is also a Certified Seminar Leader who has made presentations to various Fortune 500 companies, universities, and mental health clinics. He is the producer of Protecting the Diamond, a communication skills CD which has been endorsed by two New York Times best-selling authors John Bradshaw, author of Homecoming and Dr. Thomas Gordon, author of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.). Dr. Gordon was founder of Gordon Training International, an organization that has taught communication skills to millions of families worldwide. Mr. Goldberg has recently published a new book entitled The “And” Prinicple, Celebrating Self-Acceptance.

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Poems on Parenting by Bill E. Goldberg

AFTER ALL WE GIVE

After all we give,
day after day,
and year after year,

if we are happy enough,
to let our children be different from us,
and separate from us,

if we can accept our children’s feelings,
whether they be happy, sad, angry, or afraid,

if we can foster their uniqueness,
and encourage them to lead their own lives,

then we will have a good chance,
that they will grow up,
and like us.

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A CLOUD

A cloud,
wispy gas,
can block the mighty sun.

And a hurt feeling,
unresolved,
can block years of loving.

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SECOND BIRTH

Don’t fool yourself.
A father isn’t a father by only sowing,
but by seeing.
Seeing … Listening … Attuning … Responding.
These are what give birth
to your child’s authenticity.
You did the first part,
now do the second.
Give your child
the second birth
they so truly deserve
and ennoble parenting.

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ODE TO A BABY OAK

Hi little one.
You are so beautiful!
Being a great admirer of your older brothers and sisters,
I know what you will become.

Your trunk is now thin and moves with the wind,
yet someday your trunk will be so thick no wind will make it sway.

Your branches are narrow and can carry little weight,
yet someday birds will nest in your branches,
and rest on them singing into the night.

Your trunk is now smooth like a child’s face,
yet someday it will be craggy and textured
by time passed and experience gained.

Your branches meander now with slight twists and turns,
yet someday they will streak like veins of lightning across the sky.

I know the glory you will become.
It is inevitable as long as your needs are met,
and your needs are simple and few.
Sun, water, and respect.

Needs met, potentiality realized.
Needs met, the fruition of your design.
Needs met, the fulfillment of the
dream that you are now in miniature.

Oh, what will you experience? I do not know.
I do know you’ve chosen a beautiful place to grow up in,
surrounded by elders and mountains covered with green velvet.

Blessings little oak.
I wish for you long life, good life.

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